Break to Focus.

In recent months I am increasingly getting pissed by the above statement. In fact I hate that statement. I am tired of men who say this statement. So today I went to a wedding and I met one of my old girl friends. She is in her final semester of her Masters. I mean gal got it going on.She happens to be very pretty too and you would be surprised she's 28. So anyway I'm talking to home gal and she says that she hasn't seen me in a while. She goes further to ask whether I have a dude now...well u know the old adage of people tend to disappear when there's a new person in their lives... but anyway that's a story for another day... so I ask my gal about person x who she was seeing..Home gal says they broke up with the boy in December....the main reason was the bwoi needed a break of 2 months to focus.

Right there and then my hate for the above phrase re suffices. She tells me she asked him what I have always wondered. Why the hell would a man hook up with u, knows your level and then "request" for a time to catch up and refocus. I see it as a man who is in either of these 2 situations
a) Has found another gal.
b) Act dumb enough to think he needs to focus as though he didn't know where the gal was "level wise" when they met.

I have had the same statement delivered. It ain't my fault I tried to do what I had to do early. So for me when I meet a new guy my question is " where are you in terms of your goals? Are you focusing at this time,trying to focus or are already ready to have another full time job(a relationship) as you continue focusing? Dammit ask me my level. I am also tryna get to another level so please if you feel a "level" below when we meet, how about try and catch up before you even attempt to ask me out. See I really don't care about levels but of course men think a woman with her shit or say better shit-read education,$$ etc as a threat. Please! men want an intelligent woman, educated,who holds down a decent job,pays her bills but when the platter is offered the brothers chicken out....and that's another reason why I will never try to figure where the hell men came from...really!

In other words bwois trying to halla at me and they don't know where they stand "level wise" have been having a really hard time...cuz oops I pass.Sorry guys I am not ready for another statement close to I need a break to focus!